The Single Most Important Way To Set Your Goals

Friday, December 20, 2019 - 14:31
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You have goals...

Maybe you want to lose 20 pounds...

Maybe you want to run a 5k...

Maybe you just want to be healthier...

Whatever your goal is, it's important to understand this one EXTREMELY important fact.

Goals are fluid.

They change.

And it's important to remember that what your goal is right now, is subject to the circumstances of life. 

There will be times when you get sick, or work is crazy... and that's okay. When these things happen, losing 20 pounds might not be a realistic goal for you. 

It might make more sense to tone back your goal and just try to make it to the gym twice a week. That is a perfectly reasonable goal all things considered.

A lot of times we fall into a pattern of wanting to accomplish a goal, life getting in the way, feeling like a failure when we aren't able to accomplish that goal, giving up, then starting it all over again later on down the road.

But what if we took a different approach?

What if the only REAL goal was to get healthy, and all of the micro goals you set for yourself on the way to being healthy were flexible?

I think it's fair to say that most people who work out, do so to be healthy. They want to take care of themselves and look good. That goal in and of itself is more like a journey than a destination. You never own it, you can only rent it. And when you stop paying rent you get kicked out.

But I digress...

Within that goal of being healthy, there are a bunch of smaller goals we set to help keep us motivated.

Let's say your goal is to lose 20 pounds since most people have a weight loss goal.

You start attacking this goal, working out 3 times per week and eating clean. You start seeing results pretty quickly and you lose 5 pounds in your first month. "This is it" you think to yourself. "This time I'm actually going to lose that 20 pounds"

But then...

Your daughter gets sick, so you have to stay home to take care of her. And just as she's getting better... you feel an itch in your throat...

It's your turn.

And before you know it, you've been knocked on your butt and haven't been to the gym in 2 weeks!

But not only have you not been to the gym, you haven't been to the office, you haven't knocked anything off of your to-do list at all, because all you've been able to do is take care of yourself.

You are behind.

Listen to me when I tell you this...

That's okay.

That's normal.

It will happen to all of us countless times in our life.

And when it does happen, we have to reassess our initial goal.

Because you're behind at work and around the house, it may not be realistic for you to stick to the health routine you had prior to your daughter getting sick.

Maybe you don't have the mental willpower to maintain that entire lifestyle at the moment.

This is what you need to do.

Scale back.

It's okay to scale back. It doesn't mean you've failed.

Maybe you change your goal from losing 20 pounds, to just making it to 1 workout per week.

And as you begin to knock off items on your to-do list you reassess again, and decide you can comfortably fit in 2 workouts per week.

Then you absolutely nail the huge presentation at work so you have even more free time. Woohoo! We're back to our original 3 days.

You're back into the swing of things, and you've even been able to eat well again!

This is what fitness journeys look like on a micro level.

Your goals are not all or nothing.

They need to be flexible, and mold around your life. Not the other way around.

And what's important to remember as well is the fact that just because you have to adjust your goals... it doesn't mean you've failed.

If anything it means you are succeeding because even though it's slowed down a bit, you're able to keep making progress.

As the saying goes...

"No matter how slowly you go, you're still lapping everyone on the couch."

So keep this in mind next time you feel life getting in the way.

Understand that it's okay to adjust.

And when the time is right, begin returning to that original goal.

This is how true success happens with fitness.

Hope This Helps
Coach Mark